I always thought you only could dent someone's self esteem... But that was my ignorance and today everything came to light. I learnt self esteem is like fine bone china that is so fragile. It is so easy to destroy a person's self esteem and raising that esteem back could take years. I work with young kids and I realised their esteem is really very fragile. Being a significant other to that child is so important and how you treat the child could really effect their future. So what's a significant other? This is the person or people who raise you up when you're down and praise and encourage you no matter what. Just one negative word from this person could destroy a person's self esteem in less then 10 seconds. So remember when someone comes to you to talk or show you something, they have chosen you to show you or tell you what is important to them. Don't turn them away be it child or adult. It could scar them and make them feel low and worthless.
The following a bit of a poem I have read. I don't know the Author but I will find out. It's called Please hear what I am not saying.
" Don't be fooled by me. Don't be fooled by the face I wear. I wear a mask. I wear a thousand masks-masks that I am afraid to take off; and none of them are me. "
So remember what ever it is...If you are chosen as a significant other, Listen and advice/give praise. You don't know the positive effect it could have on the person who has chosen you.
2 comments:
It is a very interesting perspective, and I agree... But sometimes, people seek you out and unload all their problems on you and you don't WANT to help them.
And they keep coming back - as people who usually need to talk will keep going wherever they get an ear. It's like a drug.
So you could unwillingly end up being someone's counsellor - even though you never asked for it.
And the thing is, the more people unload on you, the more your own happiness starts to suffer... so sometimes you HAVE to turn someone away and yes, it will hurt their self esteem, but there's only so many people you can help so many times before you go mental yourself.
The two sides to every coin... and I do agree that sometimes you have to turn someone away... I have experienced both sides of the coin... :)
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